Archive for March, 2009

Brian and I have been reading some of the submissions as they come in, and we are both moved by your honesty and passion. I’m also proud of those who are nominating themselves. As women, we can struggle with self worth and the idea of deserving a gift. Whether you’ve suffered trauma or not, if your a mom, you deserve a break and a gift. :) Amen?! For anyone who missed yesterday’s post, make sure you enter someone you love (including yourself) in the Running on Empty Contest before Wednesday!

Want to hear about the rest of our Homestay in Ban Tale Nok?

We woke up a few times the second morning. The first time was at 5:30am when the rooster crowed and crowed AND crowed. When he was done the neighbors rooster crowed and crowed and crowed. And when all the roosters had their final say for the morning, we woke up again at 7am with the Gibbons singing their beautiful songs. Every living thing was alive in the early hours of the morning. Day two started with a vibrant energy!

Mr. Hem’s wife invited us over for breakfast and taught us how to make our own Roti Thai pancakes.

Blaze loves Roti pancakes and didn’t waste any time getting started. You’d love them too: fried dough with condensed milk, sugar, chocolate and sliced bananas on top.

For all my Photo Recipe lovers, I shot the above image with the Sony DSLR-A900 at an aperture of 2.8. My ISO was high b/c the kitchen didn’t have a lot of light. My ISO was at 1250. My shutter speed was 125 or 1/125th of a second. Metered on Blaze’s face.

After breakfast, we were given a tour of the village’s Animal Rescue Shelter. This set up is awesome. When monkeys or apes are injured, the village has set up the means to help rehabilitate them so they can enter back into the wild.

As you know from past posts, it’s rare to see a Gibbon ape at our house. We hear them, but rarely see them. Well guess what! The village had a handful of beautiful Gibbons!

We have a couple white Gibbons living in our backyard! We’ve spotted them two or three times, but it’s always from a distance. It was AWESOME to see the white ones up close. They are just beautiful!

Not only do Gibbon apes have amazing songs, but they also do the most incredible acrobatics with their long, strong arms. I could watch them for hours and not ever get bored. But watch out for those long arms, they swiped the sun glasses right off a man’s head! Lickety split! His glasses were gone! They can reach through the cage a lot farther than you’d ever guess! You can see how they are spying on Brian and Blaze, waiting for the perfect moment to grab that video camera. :)

After the Gibbons, we went on to more activities! The day had only begun. One activity was meeting the beautiful soap making women and being taught their trade. The other activity was learning to palm weave. Both of these experiences were amazing and could be their own blog post! I’ll start with the palm weaving and see how far I get.

This amazing woman taught how to palm weave.

She will get an order for 400-500 sets of palm weaving that becomes a bungalow roof. Have you ever been to Mexico or Hawaii and had a bungalow bar on the beach? Next time see if the roof is made up of palm weaving.

She earns 5 Thai Baht for every length she does. See the piece on the top of the pile? How the colors are brown and green? For that whole thing, she is paid 5 Baht. It’s mind boggling. In US dollars that conversion is 14 cents.

For almost two hours, she sat with us and the kids and taught us how to do her trade. This woman didn’t speak a word of English, but she had such a heart of gold in wanting Pascaline and Blaze to learn for themselves.

Blaze loved her. The two of them spent almost an hour together working on one piece. He kept asking her questions, and she would just smile at him and nod–sometimes saying “Wow!” or give him a thumbs up with a BIG smile. Oh, Blaze soaked every bit in. They were total buds.

With the help of our friend, we all finished our own pieces.

In the evening, some of the staff from Andaman Discoveries came by to teach the youth how to make compost for organic gardening. AD is doing an AMAZING job with the villages, on so many levels!

Pascaline and I joined the village women and learned how to shell cashews. The village women do this every night. I asked them what they like to talk about together. They said men and how to make more money. Women are women! :)

For example, I was making fun of Brian behind the camera. And even though these two women don’t speak a word of English, they totally got was I was saying. When someone is crazy in the head, Thai people call them “Ding Dongs.” Brian said we use the same word in English. Husbands are husbands (and often Ding Dongs), no matter how small your village is.

Aside from the occasional (HUGE) beetles wedged between the curtains, we had an AMAZING time! Some Thai people fry these beetles and eat them with chocolate sauce. This is a tough one for us to grasp. :)

We want to thank AD and all the villagers of Ban Talae Nok for welcoming us into their homes. The experience was life changing to say the least!

And a HUGE thank you and BIG HUG to the sweetest, most savvy Thai woman you’ll ever meet!

Her name is Tu, and she was our translator the whole time. She owns her own restaurant in Thailand. And when we were done with our homestay, she took us back to her restaurant and gave us Thai cooking lessons!

It was AWESOME! We love you Tu and miss you terribly!!

Brian tried to do some Photo Coaching Tu by teaching her how to lean forward to elongate your neck for pictures. She almost did it as good as me. :)

Maybe if you had blue eyes Tu, it would be easier. ;) (little inside joke we have with Tu)

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I’ve got to take a jungle segway here and start our Running on Empty Contest for the May Discovery Workshop in San Francisco! Remember…the Discovery Workshop in San Francisco! :)

We’ve been so occupied with life in Thailand that we haven’t mentioned it much on the blog, but ladies, the dates are coming!! The countdown for the workshop has begun! As of today, we have 32 days until the workshop starts! Woo hoo!!!

We are so excited about this workshop, and more than ever Brian and I are excited to start the Running on Empty Contest! We have GREAT news! There are THREE ways to win this time!

We’re going to do what we always do. We’ll have you nominate a friend, wife, sister, or yourself (don’t be shy–your worth winning!) in the comments of TODAY’S post. BUT, you MUST include a contact email in their nomination. If there is no contact email, the nomination will be DISQUALIFIED. Please don’t miss this important detail! We want the winners to be able to come, but if we can’t get a hold of them or you, we’re stuck. So please, please, please include their contact email or yours in their nomination.

Now to explain the good news! One of our former workshp attendees felt inspired to donate funds for two women to attend the workshop with a matching grant. This means, we have the funds to pay for HALF of the workshop for TWO women! Isn’t that an incredibly generous gift, especially in crazy economic times! This former attendee has a heart of gold and believes that this workshop will be amazing. This is part of what she emailed me;

I’ve been blessed enough to be able to do take your workshop…What touched me most to do it is knowing people couldn’t afford it, but obviously want to go as badly as I do!”

We can’t thank her enough for her generosity.

The beautiful bottom line is that we have three prizes!

One woman will win the full enchilada! Her workshop tuition for three full days with me, Brian, Rick Chapman and Garrett Burdick will be COMPLETLY paid for! Garrett and his lovely wife have offered a spare bedroom in their house if the winner needs a place to stay. And you get to ride with Garrett everyday to the workshop! The Sonoma Workshp ladies will all vouche for what an AWESOME guy Garrett is. If the winner lives local, but one of the other two winners don’t, Garrett is more than happy to offer his spare bedroom to you! (thank you Garrett!)

Two runner ups will be given the opportunity to come to the workshop for HALF OFF and have this angel of a woman pay for your OTHER half!

Three women win! I’ve never been so excited to do a Running on Empty contest! We get to have THREE winners!

If you are new to our blog and not sure who this contest is for, I’ll explain below. If you already know the drill, nominate someone you love in the comments below. We are going to close submissions in 48 hours. So make sure you nominate someone today! We want to announce the winners by the end of the week!

For more details on the Discovery Workshp see below!

Official closing time for submissions is in 48 hours, Wednsday at 6am, PST!

Who is the Running on Empty contest for?

Here’s how it works! In honor of how wonderful moms are and all that they do and give, Brian and I have reserved three spots in the Discovery Workshop for a special mom YOU nominate! That’s right, one woman will get a free pass to the workshop. And two other women will recieve a matching grant that pays for half of the tuition!

To nominate a mom, you must post a comment in today’s post (before the 48 hour deadline) that tells us about the mom who you think deserves a big break in life! If your a mom, you’re probably laughing because we ALL deserve a serious break. But the moms we’re looking for are the ones who have had a ridiculous amount of stress in their life whether from trauma, finances or things just not going her way this year.

She is a mom in your life that needs a serious blessing to come her way. She needs a surprise giving her empty tank some fuel. If she is a woman that has miscarried, she is still a mom in my mind b/c I know her heart became a mother’s heart the moment she found out she was pregnant. I’m proud to say that our previous winners stepped out on a limb and nominated themselves. Take courage in them and feel free to nominate yourself if you know you need a serious break. Who knows, you may have your house remodeled by Oprah! :)

We’ll collect all the nominees, have a committee vote, and then announce the winner in this week! Nominate her today and turn her day around! Oh, wait! Don’t forget to let her know you’ve nominated her too! If I was a mom nominated I’d love to know my friends were thinking of me whether I won or not!

Is the Discovery Workshop right for your nominee?

This will be a three day workshop, instead of our normal two day. Unlike our other workshps, we are asking women to come who have a good sense of camera basics. If you’ve watched both or can watch both Refuse to Say Cheese and Beyond the Green Box, prior to the workshop, you could do this workshop with ease! We are going to go deep into the heart of discovering our artist within. We’ll be working with award winning, Rick Chapman on portraiture. Brian and I will teach on Photo Coaching: how to help people relax in front of the camera. Garrett Burdick will help lead focus groups on topics like; difficult lighting, metering, marketing, getting a business off the ground.

All meals are covered in the workshop tuition! We start with a wine/appetizer Meet and Greet at Rick and Garrett’s beautiful, new, San Rafael Studio! And we spend the next couple days at Cavallo Point and the beautiful landscape of Stinson beach!

To see the Full Schedule, CLICK HERE!

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Once we were done with our passports, feeling safe and sound, we moved on to start our Homestay.

Why did we do a Homestay? Why engage in Ecotourism?

Brian and I wanted our kids to experience Thailand on a handful of levels that were beyond a “vacation”. We chose to stay in one place for a majority of our trip, so we could all sink into the community. But we also wanted the kids to see the more authentic sides of Thailand that you can’t see from a beach town. We wanted the kids to witness how simple the Thai homes and lifestyle are while at the same time see how happy and content everyone is. And if possible, we wanted to give back to the Thai people as a family.

We discussed a number of ways to do this; should we visit an orphanage, maybe go north to were things are more rural, etc. When the option of a Homestay through Andaman Discoveries came up, we thought this could be perfect. The kids would not only get to see a Thai village first hand, but they would be living with a Thai family where there isn’t the comfort of Western style any THING. Bathrooms for instance-they are getting lots of practice at squatting. And to paint the picture super clear, Blaze was still sitting when he’d go number one. He had no desire to learn how to pee standing up. When he walked into our homestay’s bathroom, he took one look at his surroundings and decided to learn how to pee standing up. He hasn’t looked back. :)

The bugs are also welcome in the houses, whether they are beetles the size of Blaze’s fist or spiders the size of TWO hands. Our little episodes with flying termites in the last few weeks are silly compared to the beasts in the houses here! And it’s hilarious how we’ll freak out and jump out of our chair at dinner, while the Thai people don’t even change the plain look on their face. You know they think we’re ridiculous when it comes to bugs!

The heat is also more intense up here than where we’ve been–reaching 106 degrees in the sun. The food is super-super authentic and not like being at a Thai restaurant. Our assigned village is a Thai fishing village. For lunch, we had fresh crab caught that morning!

I wondered if all these unusual and intense elements would shut the kids down, and instead they’ve been running through the village with the other village kids as if this was home!

We arrived in Ban Talea Nok Village this morning. Ban Talea Nok means the house that is on the side of the sea.

Around 200 people live here, and the sense of community is quite amazing. People start work before sunrise, and you would too if the heat reached 106 degrees before noon! Many of the men are fisherman. Some own rubber tree farms. The women stay behind and prepare meals, shell cashew nuts for extra income, weave palm leaves for their roof tops or make organic soaps to sell. By the late afternoon, everyone is sitting in their doorways, visiting with each other, repairing fish nets or getting a good nap before dinner.

All the children run free through the village. There have been countless times when I thought a child sitting in the house was the owner’s child. But it often turns out that the little one is a neighbor’s son–just hanging out as if he was at home. The village as a whole raises the children. Everyone disciplines and praises the children as if they were their own. It’s quite beautiful to witness.

We started Day One with a local villager walking us to the pretsunami village site.

This wide, open plain was once the home of all their huts. When the Tsunami hit on December 26th, 2004, Ban Talea Nok (along with many of the neighboring villages) was devastated. Our guide, Mr. Ramb, said three large waves hit, reaching heights taller than palm trees. There wasn’t any trees tall enough for villagers to climb, so many lost their lives. The old ruins of the one room school still sit alongside the beach. Mr. Ramb, told us that 16 of the children and one teacher were killed b/c of how hard the waves hit the school. Forty seven villagers total were killed. Mr. Ramb lost five cousins that day. Knowing all the tragedy this village has gone through, I’m amazed at how much joy the villagers express. To be here and know that our time, money and involvement for the next few days is going toward the Tsunami relief for this village…well, that is an awesome thing.

After the preTsunami walk, one of the other villagers, Mr. Hem, invited us to his home and taught us how to do the traditional Batik painting. This is one of the activities the villagers do to help raise Tsunami relief funds. The Batik painting has several steps to the process.

First, you sketch on the stretched canvas the picture you want to make.

Batik Painting, ecotourism

Then Mr. Hem taught us how to outline our sketches with wax.

ecotourism-batik painting

The wax will eventually dry and create white lines.

ecotourism-batik painting

Once the wax was applied, we started painting our canvases.

We all enjoyed this activity because the paint bleeds through the canvas, but the wax lines we made stops the paint from spreading any farther. And then you can start mixing your paint colors and bleeding them together. All four of our Batik paintings were totally different.

Blaze painted an octopus, squid and dolphin. :)

Pascaline’s swans had the most amazing detail! I painted some of the life I’ve loved seeing while scuba diving; sea turtles, Nemos, sea shells, and butterfly fish. Brian, wow…Brian’s turned out amazing. It’s this mural type looking painting with all our names and different symbols of each of us. Pretty intense. :) We all ended up loving the process so much that we spent over three hours working on our individual pieces.

But the funniest thing of all is how much our kids went crazy over the cats, yes cats, roosters, chickens, ducks and all their babies. Pascaline and Blaze ran around the village for hours chasing the chickens. You would have thought we brought our kids to Thailand to experience chickens and kittens instead of Batik painting! :)

Ecotourism, Pascaline with kitten

We ended our night with a special treat. The religion of this village is primarily Muslim. After dinner, our homestay family invited us to put on their traditional Muslim clothes so we could experience the dress for ourselves.

The beading is ornate, and the white cloths is bleached to a perfect, crisp white. You know these clothes are held in special regard. Being offered the chance to try their custom clothes on and take pictures was quite a gift.

The process of Pascaline and I having our head coverings pinned was quite thorough. I can’t imagine how the women do it every day in such intense heat.

And Blaze, he embraced his outfit without hesitation! :)

Brian really looks like a natural Muslim. Don’t you think!

Here we are…your Muslim family from Ban Talae Nok Village!

FUN ANNOUNCEMENT!!

In the midst of all this adventure, we just got word that our DVDs were selected to be a featured product as a perfect gift for Mother’s Day on TV!! If you have access to the Daytime TV show, check it out today! Go here to see what time the show airs! Can anyone tape it for us? That would be so AWESOME!!!

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We’ve been offline for the last few days because we’ve been out of internet range on a CRAZY and somewhat SCARY adventure!

This week’s adventure was instigated by the need to do a VISA run. What do I mean by a VISA run?

When we came to Thailand, we were all given a 30 day visa. On the 29th day, we needed to cross the border into one of Thailand’s surrounding countries to renew our VISA so we could stay longer in Thailand. You basically leave Thailand, get stamped in the other country, and walk back over into Thailand.

Brian and I went back and forth on this subject for days. Should we do the eight hour drive to and from Malaysia? Should we end our trip up north in Chang Mai, and do the Visa run up there?

In the midst of trying to figure out where to go, a friend told us about the idea of Ecotourism and Andaman Discoveries (AD). AD is a non profit organization that helps raise funds for surviving villages hit by the Tsunami. One of the primary ways AD raises money is through hosting and organizing Ecotourism (sometimes known as Homestays) within the villages. The idea of doing a home-stay in a traditional Thai village sounded perfect for the kids to experience.

But before I get into our Home-stay experience, let’s talk about the Visa run we did.

After we decided to do a Home-stay through AD, it made the most sense to drive 4 hours, get on a longtail, cross into Burma, get our VISAs stamped, get back on the longtail, cross back into Thailand and be done with it. We would only be 1 hour away from the village for our Home-stay. Perfect distance. It sounded easy. It sounded like no big deal.

By the time we arrived in Ranong (the city where we get our longtail to cross into Burma), it was 4:30pm. The Thai custom’s office closes at 6pm. Without knowing what happened, a whirlwind hit us up side the head. Before we had even pulled into the pier, men were yelling at us from the pier parking lot and telling us to hurry. They already knew we were showing up for one reason: get into Burma fast, get our stamp, and get out even faster.

Luckily (I don’t use the word “luckily” in writing much but it’s perfect here!)…luckily, our friends had told us what to expect with crossing into Burma.

They said we’d get in a longtail boat, stop at a couple different check points, and when we got to Burma we would be asked for a “crisp” US $5 bill. This is what Burma immigration would demand. Five dollars for each person. If we didn’t have the $5 bill, no worries, someone would be standing outside selling them for us to buy. Ok…

Our friends then said that we would be asked by the Burmese if we wanted to buy any thing while we’re here. They said not to resist and go by something, anything. The point was that every visitor bought something in Burma no matter how short your stay was.

Once we bought something, paid them our crisp $5 bill, we would be ushered back on the boat and head back to Thailand.

Brian and I were so thankful for this bit of information because we weren’t prepared for how frantic every thing would feel. Picture us being in southern Thailand on beaches with beautiful blue waters, a culture that is always smiling, an atmosphere that is relaxed and easy going, and then being in complete Burmese CHAOS!

Getting in the longtail alone was different than all the longtails we’ve been riding. For starters, notice anything non Western like below the longtail driver?

The longtails also sat much lower in the water, are skinnier, and all the longtails are trying to cram into one small place off the pier.

You had to jump over a couple longtails to even get to yours–while they are teeter tottering–with a four year old who wants to be carried and an eight year old who isn’t sure of what is happening. Am I smiling because I’m having fun or freaking out?

I love this image b/c everyone is looking a different direction from the chaos around us.

Once our longtail was off and running, an Indian man introduced himself as our helper. He asked for our passports and kept them for the next 90 minutes of our journey. It was one of those frantic moments where you don’t know whether or not you should hand your passports over, but you don’t feel like you have much choice. So you do for better or worse.

We made our first stop at a Thai checkpoint. The checkpoint was built on stilts over the water, and the Indian man jumped off the longtail onto the rickety steps, ran up to the office, and did something inside. We were told to stay in the longtail and wait. After five minutes he came rushing out, yelling at our longtail driver, and then jumped on the boat. We were off again. Five minutes later we pass another Thai checkpoint that sits on a small island. The Indian man signals FOUR with his fingers, meaning the four of us, and they wave our boat on in approval.

And then it felt like the water itself got murky. We puttered our way into Burma’s border, and everything looked so dismal and depressed. There was no question from the frail condition of the houses on stilts, we were in a 3rd world country.

We pulled up to a Burma checkpoint that also stood on stilts. The Indian man went inside with our passports, and this five minutes of waiting felt like the longest of all. Burmese men dressed in nice clothes (not matching the country’s economic condition), leaned over the railing, looking down on us in our little longtail boat. I felt totally helpless in that moment. Brian said in almost a whisper without looking away from the men, “I’m not going to pull the camera out here. I get the feeling that it may not be safe.” And it was true. You had this sinking feeling that you were entering a country with few rules, a dictator who is cruel, and a depression over the people that is the exact opposite of Thai people.

However, after we were back in to our room I noticed that Brian did pull the camera out and got this shot of the Burmese checkpoint while trying to keep the camera hidden behind me. (sneaky-sneaky!) The man with the baseball cap was our Indian helper.

Once we had our approval from this checkpoint, we headed to the Burma pier. Chaos was in full swing on the pier. A Burmese man was yelling at us to get off the boat, to hurry because we were almost out of time. There was also a hundred or more people getting off a large boat, crowding, trying to push their way over the border. We climbed on to the pier, trying our best not to fall into the brown, murky water below.

Out of the corner of my eye, I saw our Indian helper take off with our passports. Panic rose up in me, but then the focus came back to the kids and keeping us together. The Burmese man told us to get in front of the crowd and yelled at the Burmese people to move. Everything was so loud, so crowded, it was all we could do to not let go of each other’s hands and keep pushing to the front of the line. Once there, we were given entrance to Burma.

The custom’s office was an open aired room, built with dingy concrete walls that smelled of old urine. We were asked by a man for our passports. We fumbled through trying to explain that an Indian man had them and said he was helping us. They then asked for a crisp $20 bill ($40 total–but we can only pay in $20′s). Brian only had $23 on him. When he pulled out his $20 bill, they inspected it and said it was to dirty because there was a pin sized blue ink spot on the corner. Corruption was clearly at work here. They refused our $20 bill and demanded 2000 Baht which is more like $60 instead of $40. But you don’t exactly say “no”. All you know is that you need to get back into Thailand as fast as possible–by 6pm to be exact!

We were then asked if we wanted to buy any thing in Burma. If our friends had not prepared us for this question, we would of said “no thank you.” But Brian had me stay with the kids while two Burmese men took him down the street to buy something. As Brian crossed over a line of Burmese soldiers and lost sight of me and the kids, he remembered he still didn’t have his passport back.

The Indian man did come back with our passports and ended up being our saving grace through all the chaos. He knew the Burmese were going to want copies of our passports. We had no idea. All along he was off making copies.

With our Burmese stamps, a bottle of Burmese whiskey (Brian’s subconscious was obviously ready for a drink since he’s NEVER bought whiskey before! :) ), we got back onto the same longtail boat. My stomach remained in knots until after we passed the scary Burmese checkpoint for the second time. Same men sat above us, looking down with smug expressions on their faces. You could tell they felt powerful.

When we passed the Thai checkpoint, 20 minutes later, I wasn’t sure if they were Thai or Burmese. But when the soldiers were close enough to make eye contact with us, their faces broke into wide smiles and they yelled, “Sawadee Kob!” which means “Hello! Welcome!”

When the Thai immigration office stamped our VISAs, it was 5:50. Ten minutes to spare! A little to close for us in the future.

Oh…I took a deep breath. Brian looked at me and said, “That was CRAZY!” The kids seemed a little oblivious to the intensity we had just been in. But when we were in our hotel that night–exhausted emotionally and physically–the kids’ processing started.

Pascaline asked why we had been so serious when we went into Burma. “Both of you didn’t smile much, and you wanted us right next to you the whole time. I wasn’t sure if you were made at us. All I knew is you weren’t joking around.”

As we listened to Pascaline and Blaze’s questions and observations, Brian and I realized they had processed way more stress than it looked like from the outside. Before Blaze fell asleep, he asked us if we could do our VISA stamp somewhere else the next time.

“Absolutely,” we answered. “Absolutely.”

(As a disclaimer to this whole experience, I’m sharing what happened from our point of view and ours alone. I’m sure plenty of other people have done their border runs into Burma and not felt the stress we did. I think the combination of showing up late in the afternoon, having limited time, and then having two small children with us upped our intensity all around. But I have to be honest. I did not feel safe doing our border run here. And I wouldn’t advise any of my girlfriends who are traveling alone to do their border run here either. Just my two cents.)

p.s. We are going to do an AWESOME contest for two people to receive matching grants for HALF of the Discovery Workshop tuition! A workshop attendee has offered this opportunity, and we are SO EXCITED!! Click on the words, Discovery Workshop, below to learn more about this upcoming workshop. Contest details coming soon!!

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WIN A SONY CAMERA!! It’s a NATIONWIDE CONTEST that Woman’s World and Sony are sponsoring with us! For details, CLICK HERE !

Register for our Upcoming Discovery Workshop ! Ladies Only! :) CLICK HERE to get your spot!

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Can you believe we’ve been here almost 30 days?! It doesn’t seem possible that four weeks have already come and gone. If the trip ended today, we would go home with so many life long lessons and memories. It’s been wonderful to stay in one place for this long. I feel like we’ve begun to find an internal rhythm with living in the jungle.

The first couple weeks, we all woke up so early–the crack of dawn. Every noise, the smallest breaking twig, had us sitting up in our beds. The last week or so, we’ve all been sleeping in until 9am! The morning music of the jungle has become more soothing than startling. I know we will miss the morning sounds a lot when we go home.

Homeschool is going AWESOME! It has been the anchoring feature of our time. Without having the homeschool routine, the kids would be “Can we do this? Will you buy me that? Can you play this with me? etc. etc”…ALL day long. But with homeschool in the morning, it works their little brains so they earn going to the beach. And I think it tires their brains out b/c they ask for a lot less.

This morning we did science experiments with the kids on humidity. No problem finding that here! :) A few days ago we read about plant life in tropical rain forests. Then we collected leaves and flowers and did fun sketches in our notebooks. We had a friendly snake outside our bedroom the other day. And then one of the staff members found a snake skin and saved it for the kids. But we had to promise to give it back so the pregnant woman on staff could bathe with the snake skin–something Thai people take very seriously.

Brian finished reading the kids a Wrinkle in Time. And Pascaline…well Pascaline tries her best, EVERY DAY, not to let the monkeys acrobatics distract her from math. As you can see, she’s making good progress on staying focused. :)

Once homeschool is done in the morning, we kayak to our favorite beach and buy bbq’d corn on the cob, chicken skewers and fresh watermelon shakes for lunch. It’s like $1.80 per person. Best deal here!

There are some days when it feels to hot to be outside with temperatures reaching 102 degrees. On these blistering afternoons, the kids create games to play inside where the ceiling fan brings a little relief. The kids haven’t mentioned movies or cartoons ONCE since we’ve been here! Isn’t that amazing!

Most of our laundry is done by our housekeeper, but an everyday ritual is washing out the swimsuits and hanging them to dry.

Yep Sue Christianson! That’s one view of the bathroom! :) But here is our FAVORITE part of the bathroom!

The tall blue clay jar holds fresh water from the underground spring. The dragon’s head above the jar fills it up when we start to run out. The silver bowl on top is so we can scoop the water out of the jar and dump it over ourselves. You can see why this is everyone’s favorite place in the house! A handful of times I’ve caught Blaze dumping water over himself in the middle of the day, trying to cool down. He’s never bathed this much in his life!

Is it bliss here?

It’s 99.2 percent bliss. Aside from the intense bug control, bats, rascally monkeys, and being that we have young children with us, we don’t completely escape certain things. For instance, we don’t escape the fussiness of kids in the late afternoon. Isn’t that funny? Kids must get fussy all over the world in the late afternoon. It’s to late to eat a snack b/c it will ruin their dinner, but it’s to early for dinner. Errrr! Brian even caught me disciplining Pascaline for her crummy attitude. This image just cracks me up b/c we are on this beautiful white sandy beach, our kayaks next to us, clear waters surrounding us, and kids are still kids–moms are still moms. (I especially love where Blaze is at–smart guy to stay back.)

I love Brian’s attitude. Before we came to Thailand, I asked him, “Do you think the kids are going to be fussy or get super bored?” And without even thinking he said, “Of course they are going to be fussy and get bored. They’ll be like that no matter where we go. Their kids! The question is would you rather be disciplining them in Seattle where it rains almost every day or on a remote beach in Thailand?”

Um yeah, that’s all he needed to say.

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She is our sweety,and she turned eight years old today! Happy Birthday sweet Pascaline!

The one thing and ONLY thing that made Pascaline nervous about this trip was she would turn eight years old while we were in Thailand. Eight years old in Thailand…what would that look like? Pascaline was convinced it wouldn’t feel like her birthday being so far from home. I’m happy to say she went to bed tonight saying this was the BEST birthday she’s ever had! :)

The morning started with her and Gina having a magical moment when they saw the white haired Gibbon apes! Some people. who have lived here a few years, have yet to see the Gibbons for themselves. But Pasc was up early keeping Gina company as she packed to head home. And from what I hear, they both saw the Gibbons in the trees!

After breakfast, Pascaline and I bought longtail boat tickets to go to the mainland and spend the day shopping together. At home we have this little tradition where she and I bring our journals and pens. At her request, we spend the afternoon shopping at Nordstrom (she is a Nordstrom fanatic! I don’t quite get it since I never go myself, but Pasc LOVES that place. She’s already been offered a job there when she’s old enough. :) ) After we shop a little, we have lunch together in the Nordstrom Cafe. We take out our journals and colored pencils and do sketches of whatever comes to mind. And then we share them with each other.

Well, we don’t really have a Nordstrom here, but we did find journals and colored pencils at a mini mart! And we also found Swensen’s Ice Cream!

First we had ice cream, then we shopped, and then we had lunch–the order it should be for birthdays. :) I wish I had images to show you of us journaling and doing our sketches together, but I refrained. I wanted Pascaline to feel like today was only about her.

Pascaline wanted to go to the Skunk Bar for dinner. Yep, that is really what it’s called. :) But the walk is a little far which felt a little risky with the evening rainstorms we’ve been having. So we resorted to our stomping ground here, The Flaming Tree. And to our surprise, when the staff heard it was Pascaline’s birthday they went to work on a secret surprise!

While we ate dinner, we could see them huddled together working away. The staff made a sign for her, they found birthday candles, and then about 15 of them came out to sing “Happy Birthday” in English to her!

They even made her a beautiful bouquet of flowers!

Pascaline looked at me and said, “Wow, people only do all this when they love someone. I feel so loved.”

Oh, I wanted to cry. The staff loved on her so much tonight. One of the ladies told me how special the kids are to them, and how happy they were to celebrate with Pascaline tonight. For the sake of the fun memory, here is a blurry but fun family photo. :) Notice the waiter in the background. :) He is one of our favorite people here, and he’s a turkey for getting in this shot!

Over the last couple weeks, Brian and I have debated the idea of taking the kids to more locations since we have all this time. But in the end we decided to stay in one spot, for at least a month, so we could really sink in to the people and local community. After a night like tonight, I’m so glad we stayed put.

Flaming Tree is an open aired restaurant that sits on the beach front like most of the places here. To get home, you walk along the beach with your flashlight. If you forget your flashlight, you wait for the lightening to illuminate your next steps. The lighting was ever present tonight, and we sang happy birthday to Pascaline all the way home…beating the rainstorm!

What are some of the things that blow me away about Pascaline?

She is Brave. She is the ONLY one out of all four of us who gets up in the night and fearlessly walks to the bathroom to pee (our whole place is open aired here), she is unafraid of encountering Tokay geckos, bats or whatever else we here in the night! Pascaline also runs barefoot across the beach at night, dancing her heart out. Crabs run crazy when the moon rises, but she doesn’t give them a second thought. Blaze and I feel like we’re walking over hot coals as we stress about a crab pinching one of our toes.

Pascaline is also strong in spirit. She’s wise beyond her years. She’s full of creativity and magic. And the list goes on and on. I love her so much.

I love you, my sweet and beautiful Pascaline.

Love, Mama

(As I finish writing this, the rainstorm has become a full on rain POUR! The bamboo screens aren’t really keeping us dry. The kids are sound asleep, but Brian and I are hiding under our mosquito net b/c a bat has flown in for cover from the rain. But then, of course, ALL this craziness makes me have to pee. So Brian walks to the bathroom with me, on bat patrol, the rain is coming sideways which means I’m being rained on, AS I pee. AND, there is a wide eyed Tokay (gecko on steroids) hanging out on my bathroom mirror looking at me like I’m an idiot! If you aren’t getting my Twitter updates, you should be! :) You can find me on Twitter as “merakoh”. Now to find a towel that isn’t wet!)

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Since Safeway isn’t down the street, and we are in a somewhat remote area, we’ve got three options for eating;

1. We can eat out! But as we all know, that gets old after awhile–even when it’s only $2 a plate. :)

2. We can have a local woman go to the open market for us in the early morning and buy our food. But then I wondered if we could do it ourselves and save a few dollars from paying someone to do it for us. This brings me to Option 3…

3. We could do it ourselves (thinking we’d save some money).

Why not try, right? The four of us packed ourselves into a longtail boat and headed to the mainland.

Krabi’s open market is the largest in Southern Thailand. There are a couple routes to get there. We decided it would be fun if they kids experienced a public bus ride. After the longtail, we started the LONG bus ride! We had no idea how many stops the driver would make, and that 20 minute distance would end up being a hour long! :)

But once we made it to the market, it was an awesome experience for the us and the kids. Instead of going to a grocery store, where every thing is in one place, they experienced finding the fruit section,

the curry section, the chicken section,

the insect and seafood (the kids got a kick out of how the Thai people tie the crabs legs together so they can’t crawl away.),

and when Brian asked them where to find the milk…well, let’s just say we never found that section since Thai people don’t do dairy.

Pascaline found the pastry section and wanted me to get her a treat. I don’t know if I was a bad mom in the moment, but I told her that if she asked the lady how much the treat was, asked if she could have it for less, and then found a price to agree on, she could have the treat. Oooh, Pascaline did NOT like me. She said she didn’t want any thing and walked off. But a few minutes later she said she’d like to try. I was so proud of her because the simple act of getting the woman’s attention was hard for Pascaline. She had to speak up and not be shy. Then Pascaline had to repeat herself a couple times until the lady understood what she was trying to ask. The price seemed fair to Pascaline so she found the exact Thai Baht and made her first purchase. Fireworks didn’t go off, and she didn’t tell me I was an awesome mom for making her do all that, but these are the life experiences I feel convicted to teach the kids.

In the end, we decided to take a Tuk-Tuk back to the pier instead of the public bus. Tuk-Tuk’s are named that because they make a sound that goes “tuk-tuk-tuk-tuk” as they putter around town.

But beware, the drivers tend to live life a little on the wild side. Anyone who has ever been in a Tuk-Tuk has some near-death experience to share. No seatbelts, no doors, all open air. Am I right, fellow Tuk-Tuk riders? :)

The kids got a good feel for how completely terrifying and exciting a Tuk-Tuk ride can be.

They were totally relieved to be back to the pier! Brian and I can’t help but laugh when we look at these images of the kids! They don’t hide a single feeling, do they?

Conclusion…

By the time you add up the cost of all four of us traveling to the open market, it’s almost the same price to hire a local woman to do it for us. It takes a local woman 1 hour or less to do all our shopping, and it took us over three hours to find our way to the milk that we never found. And last but not least, when you buy eggs here they put the eggs in a plastic bag.

Did you hear me? A PLASTIC BAG!!

Somehow, Ms. Dame-the sweet woman who buys our groceries, is able to bring all our groceries to us, by bus, then by longtail boat, without breaking a SINGLE egg. Is this possible! Am I missing something? Okay, let’s be real! I break eggs when they are in a cardboard carton as I roll my grocery cart to my car! Are Thai eggs more durable? They must be, right!

I got my eggs at the open market, and when we got home I found that Thai eggs are not more durable.

We also learned the hard way that our chicken wouldn’t keep for more than a day. Ms. Dame taught us this when she came to make our dinner. The monkeys got into our rice, cereal, and ate all our bananas. The eggs…well, you can see what happened to the eggs. The bok choy is one of the only things that made it to the point of consumption.

Yep, you guessed it. Ms. Dame now does ALL our grocery shopping. And we are more thankful for her than EVER!

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After a twelve hour day filled with dives, swimming with more sea turtles, chapter quizzes and a final exam…It’s OFFICIAL! Brian and I are now PADI Certified Open Water SCUBA DIVERS!! Hooray!!!

I’ve got a handful of more stories to share, but I’ll have to post more later. I think the anxiety over the test wore me out, and I’m hitting the hay early tonight. Man, I haven’t had to deal with test anxiety in a long time! But it was worth it.

Mom, remember when I dreamed of being a scuba diver and marine biologist! That was way back in high school! Can you believe I finally got certified!!

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In a crazy nutshell…the kids are playing at the beach while monkeys ransack our kitchen while I’m 45 ft. under being circled by two sharks!

If you believe that this could really happen all at once, keep reading!

This is what happened…

My cousin, Gina, showed up this week! Gina is like a little sister to me. She does beautiful family portraits, helps me with the business, and is our number one help with the kids. We couldn’t come to Thailand and not have her join us for a little while. She’s here for 10 days, and we are loving the experience of her witnessing the craziness too!

Since Brian and I are going through the scuba certification course, Gina hung out with the kids so we could do a couple dives together. While they were at the beach, the monkeys did something they NEVER do! They broke through the shades! This means they got into the kitchen, and ransacked the whole place!

The kids and Gina came back to all our bananas eaten up with peels everywhere! Lamps were knocked over, and they did something that is SO OFFENSIVE! They broke into our rice!!! Just when we thought, we had made our Alpha stand, changed their pattern, outsmarted them…they prove us wrong! Those darn monkeys!

But the craziest thing is somewhere in the Andaman Sea, 45 ft. below, Brian, myself and our instructor are being circled by TWO of these bad boys!

Seriously…this is not what I had hoped for! Just when I thought we’d seen all the wildlife there was to see…

But let me back up to how we got ourselves into this spot.

With Gina and the kids playing on the beach today, Brian and I went and did a day of diving together. We haven’t had a chance to do any thing alone since we’ve been here, so this was a blast!

Here’s some fun shots of him catching me in the act of setting up all my gear!

This is Keith, our AWESOME instructor, from Cape Town, South Africa. He’s done over 4K dives!

I’m having a BLAST, as you can see. That’s because no one has informed me of the fact that one of our dives today will be focused on finding sharks! Not vegetarian sharks but CARNIVORES!

We do our first drive, and it is breathtaking! The dive is focused on a tall reef wall that has endless activity, coral of every color, it totally takes me breath away. And then I feel it. It’s subtle at first, but the feeling keeps coming back. It’s as if something is sucking on my leg. Before I know it, Keith is in my face asking me to hold still. Then he goes down to my legs, and is trying to get this THING off of me. It would have been one thing if this THING was shooed away, but only seconds later, Keith is shooing this thing away again. This time Brian is trying to kick it with his fins, and I’m feeling it on my LEG! Keith asks me to follow him, but the feeling is BACK! I’m starting to freak out, but we can’t surface yet. Both guys are at it again, trying to shoo this thing off me. I can’t even get a good look at it. All I can tell is that it’s long, a foot long, slithery and black! You can hear me squealing through the water!

And then it stops. We go to a sandy spot, work on some skills, and I don’t feel the “thing”. But when we finish our skills, I see Brian and Keith both smiling b/c the THING never left me! Turns out, he’s a Remora Sucker Fish! Can anyone say “YUCK!!!!” with me!

He’s a somewhat rare kind. They usually attach themselves to whale shark or whales. Yeah ladies, you know EXACTLY what I’m thinking! “He’s mistaking me for a WHALE!” Nice!

As we begin to ascend, I feel him on my leg again, and then I see him finally LEAVE ME BE as we surface. He never left me the WHOLE DIVE! He was hiding from me on my tank when we were doing our skills. Brian and Keith saw him but knew he wasn’t going to shoo away, and since he’s harmless, they let him be my buddy for the dive and didn’t tell me. “One in a million,” Keith says. Figures it would happen to me!

I’m a little creeped out about going back in for our second dive. It’s amazing how the Sucker fish made me feel completely claustrophobic under water. But we’re not done for the day, and Keith decides to brief us on Dive 2. Turns out we are headed to a place where Black Tipped Reef Shark are quite prominent. And not only that, our intention is to be looking for them. In Keith’s words, “We’ll come to an open space, I’ll signal to you both to start looking for the sharks, and we’ll hold still and wait to see if they come to us.”

I’m looking at him like “Are you kidding me?! What did YOU just say?” No way Hosea! That’s not interesting AT ALL to me!

Keith assures me that even though they are carnivore sharks (man eating sharks is what carnivore shark says to me!), they are terrified of people. Another fellow instructor/photographer tells me I have more reason to be afraid of peanut butter than these sharks. Then Keith shows me a picture of what the sharks look like. Okay people, you tell me what’s scarier looking–the shark or Skippy?! C’mon now!

Then I am told that the number of shark sightings has dropped significantly b/c of all the frivolous shark hunting. If we do see them, it’s a total gift. A gift…I’m still not buying it. But…

Somehow I end up in the water…descending…looking every which way I can.

Thirty minutes into the dive, we come to an open spot–just as Keith had described. He makes the shark sign with his hand to his head (and I think of every “shark” game I played in the pool with my little brothers growing up–except this time it’s not one of them pretending to be a shark–we’re looking for the REAL thing). I can’t help but think ‘How on earth am I forty five feet under water, sitting here quietly, waiting for sharks to hopefully arrive? What on earth is going on!’

And then he appears.

He’s four feet in length–about twenty feet away. The first two things I notice are his shark FIN and his SHARK SWIM. Sharks just swim different than all the others. You all know the swim. Gave me the creeps, and yet I found myself totally fascinated and enthralled! We watched him do a full, slow circle around us, checking us out. Our instructions were to hold still. I’m not sure I was even breathing! But then he moved on.

Only minutes later, I spot the second one. I’m actually making the shark sign to Keith and Brian! He’s a much bigger and badder boy than the last one. He’s almost six feet long–uh huh. This guy does a half circle, moving slowly, watching—ooooh, that beady black eye that never blinks. I can picture it now as I type this. And then without notice, he moves on too. I have to admit that neither shark ever seemed scared of us. Nope, that’s not the feeling I got. :)

We make our ascend, and I’m on cloud nine! I have lived to tell that I went scuba diving and was circled by two big reef sharks! Unreal!! I feel TOUGH after this episode! (I was attempting to make a muscle in the image if you can’t tell. ;) )

So it’s official. Sharks have now joined the wildlife encounters we’ve had! Monkeys, Geckos on steroids, flying termites, sharks, bats the size of our Golden Retriever!…wait, have I told you about the hundreds, literally HUNDREDS, of bats that flew over our heads?! HUNDREDS–the size of dogs! Ooooh, that story is coming up!

Someone commented on my Twitter and Facebook that I’m a magnet to wildlife. I’m thinking that may be true!

(Shauni, I have to tell you that I thought of you while I was being circled ‘Shauni would have totally dug this!’ Shae Min, you never once came to mind. :) )

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He Caught Me!

In the late afternoons when the heat isn’t as intense, or at night when Buddy and Dori are hanging out on the ceiling above me, I’m working away on a couple new book projects. Yep, a couple! I’m so excited! The contracts have not been finalized so I can’t say much more than that right now, but as soon as I can…you BET I’ll spill the beans with all of you!

There are so many wonderful memories we will be taking home with us when we come to the end of our time here, and writing in the heat of the jungle will be some of my favorite personal memories.

But what do I mean by personal? The types of moments that weren’t so much about family adventures and discoveries, but more so about feeding my personal growth. You must understand, I’m not even a good camper! Don’t mistake me for the REI goddess! It’s not me! You can ask my parents and brothers, I’m usually the first one to pick up my dinner and forfeit the sunset off the back deck b/c of ONE yellow jacket buzzing around. The fact that I’m living with a camping stove to cook on, and steroid pumped geckos above my head, and typing this under my mosquito net b/c of the flying termites and over zealous heat, heat, did I mention the HEAT?!…is…well…let’s just say these conditions are not necessarily me!

In many ways, I came to the jungles of Thailand because I knew it would be beyond me. It would stretch me. Take me to another level of knowing myself and yet not break me. I came with a hope to not only ignite the sense of wonder in my kids but feed my own creative spirit. Photography feeds me in numerous ways, and writing, writing is a gateway into my most intimate self.

When I look at the image below, I feel like Brian caught me as my writing self. The look of peace in my eyes, the quiet around me with only the laptop to illuminate my face, the absolute rest I feel inside as I write away (even though it’s 95 degree heat in the shade), and there is sweet Pascaline working on her homeschool behind me… All of these details and emotions come to mind when I see this image. This is a moment in time I will always treasure. This is a place my heart will come back to when the stress of life starts to swell in height.

Thanks hon, for catching this moment of me.

xoxoxo, m

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